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Avaya is out of its Chapter 11 Bankruptcy . I remember our first Avaya Project

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Those were the days! Being one the largest resellers and specialists for Avaya Customer Interaction Centers and then their Distributors was just another story.

I was going over my old archives and came across the first time we won the Project of the Year Award for delivering the most impossible software and hardware integration of a customer interaction center in 90 crazy days and nights in Doha. I don't think the team slept for more than a year. We wouldn't go back home for days and live in fear of downtime ad infinitum, ad nauseum. The cost per minute of downtime was $60,000.

There were no weekends, there were no vacations. All we knew was to deliver this most important opportunity of our lifetime.

When we did get the time; we would get into monopoly warzones in the employee housing to keep sanity or watch pirated dvds of Prison Break and nonstop  Keifer Sutherland's 24.

It was just a never-ending spiral to build a company, to work so hard to beat a market that had never…

Feminism is not about sticking a woman in our face.

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Meet Heather Nauert. She may be the next U.S. ambassador to the United Nations. Till a little while ago, she was a fox news anchor at Fox and friends, the show Trump watches intently. 

Since 1996, it seems Nauert has been a contributor and correspondent at Fox. Last year, she was offered a State Department spokesperson role as a Spokesperson.

The position justifying her nomination to the United Nations to fill in this highly academic public policy job has been that the Trump Administration wants to promote women to roles as these ones.



This is not feminism. This is a joke. Enabling women does not mean giving them jobs they are not qualified to do. It encompasses making sure they have the credibility to be able to do the job they are being asked to do. 

Just two months ago, Heather Nauert posted a picture on her Instagram of herself smiling in the Royal court of Saudi Arabia after the journalist Jamal Kashogi was murdered and dismembered.
She has no depth of knowledge about international af…

Dear Vogue, We are not planning on landing Men

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Vogue USA featured a beautiful cover of a sultry, sexy Priyanka Chopra, post her wedding on their cover. Probably a first for a brown actress (?). In any case, Vogue announces that Priyanka has LANDED the man of her dreams. Who uses that expression anymore?
People who are in disbelief.
They question the ability and credibility of a person to be able to have or perform an act or have a privilege. That is when the word " land is used"

 As in " How did the oversized Instagrammer land a hot husband ?" ( check it out - it's a real story). OR 12 golden rules if you want to land dates on Friday night.

So while Cut.com was urging people to believe run away from a fraud money hungry Indian nonentity, the Indians were busy spreading memes about the age difference of the couple and really demeaning threads of takedowns.

Here is a woman, with all the flaws and perfections she may or may not have, she has the guts to believe in herself, she the balls to do it on her own, t…

The Audacity of a Brown Girl

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I was astounded at the audacity of Ocasio- Cortez. Is it that she can dare to walk the hallowed halls that no other person of her background has ever walked? Or the alarm that she is now powerful enough to have a voice ? Wasn’t she the one not allowed to have one? So let us just point out all that we can to belittle her, spin our little stories, question ger validity, shall we? Her clothes, her demeanor? Her attitude? Her everything. It is exhausting. They just don’t believe she deserves to be there. She reminds me so much of how it was for me. Is this not how we get slaughtered every time we dare to have an opinion. We are the women of color. We are the ones who dare not have an opinion. Because for some reason we must not. We are supposed to be inferior. The first time I let myself feel it was when I sat on the couch of the law enforcement offices in Doha, Qatar. I had no idea why I had received a phone call to be there. But for some reason I was the reason for the heated debate ha…

How should you deal with Bullies ?

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It could be someone you know or someone you barely know. Bullying is the act of directing aggressive, intimidating, or threatening behaviors that are directed at an individual with the intent to cause physical or emotional harm.



Bullying can take on a variety of forms and can be in-person or through the use of electronics and technology, called cyberbullying. While this list isn’t exhaustive, you may be a victim of bullying and/or cyberbullying if someone: Subjects you to verbal taunts aimed to embarrass or humiliate youManipulates you into giving up possessions or money for fear of harm or embarrassmentPushes, shoves, kicks, or otherwise physically harms youSends and/or forwards to others any insulting emails, texts, videos, photos, or social media posts that are derogatory or untrueImpersonates you on social media to embarrass you or share your private informationUses electronic messages (texts, Facebook posts, etc.) with angry or threatening languageWhat can you do?
Bullies are weak p…

A simple guide to the world of male supremacy

I am assuming you have no mustache to wear and anatomically you are a far cry from what the leadership around you expects you to look like.

You own more monotone suits than the person down the hallway with the corner office and you are hoping that no one notices you exist while you make through the day.

God forbid you have brains. And if you have them, please relegate them to a corner of your body that's not visible.

Let's face it.

You are threatening to men even when you are not competing with them. To the most open-minded liberal men who swear to think of women as their equals, you are still not an equal.

You are still a woman. Something they used to own. And now you have a voice. How dare you?

If you are doing things that are not expected of women; you are getting in the way of your own self. Yes, they will pull you down and they will do it slowly but surely. Unless you have a very thick skin, which unfortunately cannot be purchased even on Amazon; do not try to hurt the ma…

How to Speak Up at Work

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When you express a strong or a divergent opinion, your listeners may use cognitive distortions to interpret your opinion.

The fact of our lives is that what you say will go through the mental filters of those you are saying it to- their experiences, their rules, their upbringing, their culture and their disposition before being parsed and understood by them. You are in no control of how they will understand what you say but you can mitigate the erosion of the message by creating a safe environment for them to understand it.


Here are a few recommended actions:

Use a Behavior or Value Frame:
People build a series of mental "filters" through biological and cultural influences. They then use these filters to make sense of the world. Thoughts become opinions and are affected by attitudes, rules, beliefs, and worldviews The choices they then make are influenced by their creation of a frame. Framing selects certain aspects of an issue and makes them more prominent in order to elicit ce…